Learning to Step Into My Feminine Energy

Another layer of coming home…

For most of my life, I’ve been stuck in fight-or-flight mode. Always busy, always worrying about everyone else, always taking care of other people. It’s been like second nature to me, so automatic that I didn’t even realize it was happening. Somewhere along the way, I got so caught up in being what others needed me to be that I completely lost track of myself.

But lately, something has shifted. Now that I’m in my late 30s, I’m finally starting to let go of that constant busy. I’m learning how to stop living for everyone else and start living for me. And let me just say—it feels so good.

This theme of coming home has been really strong for me lately. Coming home to myself. It’s like I’m finally giving myself permission to just be. To trust my feelings, to take up space, to ask myself what I want—and not feel guilty about it.

I’ve always been the go-to person for everyone in my life, and for the most part, I am very happy-go-lucky. But this season feels different. I feel like the spark I lost decades ago is finally back.

I’ve realized that I’ve spent so much of my life in this “strong, capable, always on” energy that I never made space to tap into my softer, more feminine energy. And honestly? Exploring that side of me has been such a freeing experience. Feminine energy isn’t about weakness—it’s about leaning into flow instead of control, receiving instead of constantly giving. It’s about softness, creativity, and connection. It’s about trusting that I don’t have to do or fix or solve all the time.

I’m really trying to lean into this, and I’m learning as I go. It’s not always easy—it’s so uncomfortable sometimes to step out of survival mode when that’s been your default for so long. But the more I trust this process, the more it feels like I’m coming home to the truest version of myself.

There’s such a peace in letting go of all the noise and finally allowing myself to live from a place of feeling. To stop overthinking, over-giving, over-doing, and just let myself be. I want to slow down, I want to lighten my mental load—and for once in my life, I am doing that.

If this resonates with you, I hope it reminds you to pause and ask yourself: What would it feel like to come home to myself? It might feel unfamiliar, even scary at first, but I promise—there’s so much beauty in discovering who you really are, outside of what you do for others.

I’m not saying I’ve got it all figured out, but here’s what I do know: I’ve spent so long worrying about being enough for everyone else, and now I’m finally learning how to be enough for me. 🩷